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“This the season to be jolly…”  Ho F—-ing Ho!

College Students come home for a number of weeks, and most families get together for Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and New Year’s. While for many it’s a time to rejoice, see loved ones etc., it’s also a time of great challenge for those of you who cut , burn, or engage in any form of self harm.

Seeing Uncle Binky who “binked you” when you were small; or seeing a fellow High School Student who bullied you can cause you to intensify your urges to harm yourself. I was also moved by “scarstomatchtheinside,” when she wrote “Words Hurt.” They sure do!

So please be careful; if going home, family gatherings, or seeing old tormentors is inevitable try to limit the time you have with these people. Words do hurt, but remember that there are steps you can take to limit your involvement.

1 – You just developed migraines while at school and you feel one coming on now.

2 – Isn’t that a sniffle I just heard? Are you sick?

3 – “I just remembered I got an incomplete in a course and I have to have it done by January 2^nd.

4 – Count the days until you can get back to school.

5 – “Don’t you remember, I volunteered for the local soup kitchen for New Year’s.

and my favorite:

“Listen you bastard, I refuse to let you, or your words or former predatory deeds (sexual abuse) stop me from having a good life. I don’t believe in harming others, verbally or physically, but if I have a picture of the offending person, I’d burn it in my backyard.

I have a question that I hope some of you can help me with. I’ve read some research that says that people who cut often times have either an eating disorder or OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). Anyone who is willing to share on this thread please do. If you want to reach me privately, you can email me at mdworkin@optonline.net.

I hope these few ideas can help any of you, even if it’s just one person survive this trying period. I know it’s after Christmas, but you see, “I had this giant migraine that came on and incapacitated me.”  Believe me? Who cares? Just please keep yourselves safe and free from harming yourselves.

Peace,

Mark